On Needing Control

I usually say that control is my biggest kink. I’ve amended that lately to say “I’m a reaction junkie”, but the truth is, I really really LIKE (need?) to be in control. Being in control is my happy space, my comfort zone. A friend asked me today why I blocked someone on a couple of Read More…

On Fear and Acceptance of Self

I sometimes get asked, “How have you not found someone yet?”. Which I take to mean, “Why are you currently single?”, because of course, I HAVE found some wonderful submissives in the past. I’m still friends and in frequent contact with several of them, in fact. My pat answer to that is, “I’m selective.” Which Read More…