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Comfort Zones

Yes, I’ve been quiet here again. Things have been progressing amazingly well with Hobbes, who’s started his own blog here. A couple of years ago, I put this quote on my FetLife profile: I like being alone. I have control over my own shit. Therefore, in order to win me over, your presence has to Read More…

KinkyCon X

I had the good fortune to be able to attend KinkyCon X in New Hampshire this past weekend. By my count, this was my 9th major kink convention, with 8 of those occurring in the past two years. I’m getting pretty adept at kinky conventions. I know what to pack. I know what food and Read More…

Spontaneous Fun

Today was a stressful day at work. Nothing bad, but it’s a crazy, hectic week for my entire department and I had to deliver a professional development webinar in the middle of it all today. I also had a ton of grading to complete which was adding to my stress level, as having unfinished things Read More…

Ask a Dominant Anything

A week ago, Sinclair Sexmith, a blogger, writer, educator, and all-round awesome person  asked me to co-moderate a live, one-hour webinar called “Ask a Dominant Anything”. It was a lot of fun, with around 50 folks logged in for the session. Sinclair had to leave early, so I tried to answer as many as I Read More…

Challenges and Changes

Hey Susannah – where the heck have you been the last two months? Your blog has been all but abandoned! Funny you should ask…life has been busy! In brief: The commute to Boston had quite literally been harming me. Back in March, my long-existing minor arthritis pain in my hips suddenly flared up into excruciating Read More…

Virgin Fetish

I’ve written about the word virginity before – in the context of not liking the term “taking someone’s virginity”. In that post, I was talking about the first definition of the word below: vir·gin·i·ty vərˈjinədē/ noun 1. the state of never having had sexual intercourse. 2. the state of being naive, innocent, or inexperienced in Read More…

Got Knismolagnia?

Say what, now? According to Kinkly, knismolagnia is defined as: a fetish where sexual arousal is produced through tickling. This term stems from the word knismesis which describes a light, tickling sensation. People may experience knismolagnia when they are being tickled or by watching someone else get tickled. Knismolagnia is also known as titillagnia. So Read More…

Mindful Breathing

In recent years, I’ve worked on being mindful – on being truly present with others. I’ve dabbled with meditation, although nothing as regular as I’d like. I’ve read some good writing on such things, most notably this little volume which I tend to eventually recommend to most folks I care about: The idea being that Read More…