Comfort Zones

Yes, I’ve been quiet here again. Things have been progressing amazingly well with Hobbes, who’s started his own blog here. A couple of years ago, I put this quote on my FetLife profile: I like being alone. I have control over my own shit. Therefore, in order to win me over, your presence has to Read More…

KinkyCon X

I had the good fortune to be able to attend KinkyCon X in New Hampshire this past weekend. By my count, this was my 9th major kink convention, with 8 of those occurring in the past two years. I’m getting pretty adept at kinky conventions. I know what to pack. I know what food and Read More…

Spontaneous Fun

Today was a stressful day at work. Nothing bad, but it’s a crazy, hectic week for my entire department and I had to deliver a professional development webinar in the middle of it all today. I also had a ton of grading to complete which was adding to my stress level, as having unfinished things Read More…

Challenges and Changes

Hey Susannah – where the heck have you been the last two months? Your blog has been all but abandoned! Funny you should ask…life has been busy! In brief: The commute to Boston had quite literally been harming me. Back in March, my long-existing minor arthritis pain in my hips suddenly flared up into excruciating Read More…

Mindful Breathing

In recent years, I’ve worked on being mindful – on being truly present with others. I’ve dabbled with meditation, although nothing as regular as I’d like. I’ve read some good writing on such things, most notably this little volume which I tend to eventually recommend to most folks I care about: The idea being that Read More…

Feedback – and I don’t mean that squawk from the microphone

Feedback Noun /ˈfēdˌbak/ “First used in 1920 in the electronics sense. Transferred use, “information about the results of a process” is attested by 1955.” 1. A reaction or response to a particular process or activity.   2. Evaluative information derived from such a reaction or response. (source: feedback. (n.d.). Online Etymology Dictionary. Retrieved September 17, Read More…

Pushing Limits

We dominant-type folks like to tell our submissives, “pushing soft limits is how you grow”, we’re fond of encouraging others to try new things and step outside their comfort zone. But if continual growth is the goal, those things should hold true for us as well. And sometimes we forget that and get stuck in Read More…