On Needing Control

I usually say that control is my biggest kink. I’ve amended that lately to say “I’m a reaction junkie”, but the truth is, I really really LIKE (need?) to be in control. Being in control is my happy space, my comfort zone. A friend asked me today why I blocked someone on a couple of Read More…

On Fear and Acceptance of Self

I sometimes get asked, “How have you not found someone yet?”. Which I take to mean, “Why are you currently single?”, because of course, I HAVE found some wonderful submissives in the past. I’m still friends and in frequent contact with several of them, in fact. My pat answer to that is, “I’m selective.” Which Read More…

I Can’t Make This Shit Up

I’ve been in online chat rooms since 1985 – several years before the advent of the World Wide Web and graphical interfaces. Back then, you had to type the physical address of the machine that was hosting the bulletin board or chat room  you wanted to visit next. There was no back button, no mouse, Read More…