Comfort Zones

Yes, I’ve been quiet here again. Things have been progressing amazingly well with Hobbes, who’s started his own blog here. A couple of years ago, I put this quote on my FetLife profile: I like being alone. I have control over my own shit. Therefore, in order to win me over, your presence has to Read More…

Challenges and Changes

Hey Susannah – where the heck have you been the last two months? Your blog has been all but abandoned! Funny you should ask…life has been busy! In brief: The commute to Boston had quite literally been harming me. Back in March, my long-existing minor arthritis pain in my hips suddenly flared up into excruciating Read More…

On the Power of Acceptance

The concept of acceptance – of self, of others – has been pondered, expounded on, sung about, and written about eloquently by far greater thinkers than myself. The concept of self-acceptance seems to be a nearly universal truth – heck, even I’ve written about that before.  And yet…it seems to be an elusive goal for Read More…

GKENE Re-cap

(First off  – oops…I haven’t blogged in over three weeks. Sigh. Mea Culpa.) Last weekend I attended GKE:NE (Geeky Kink Event: New England). It was a simultaneously invigorating and exhausting weekend and I think I’m still recovering on a few fronts four days later. It was incredibly freeing to be among “my people!” as I Read More…

Pushing Limits

We dominant-type folks like to tell our submissives, “pushing soft limits is how you grow”, we’re fond of encouraging others to try new things and step outside their comfort zone. But if continual growth is the goal, those things should hold true for us as well. And sometimes we forget that and get stuck in Read More…

What Service Looks Like

For those of you following along in other places on the Internet, I attended Bound in Boston for the first time last weekend. A truly amazing experience – hands down the best-organized con I’ve ever attended (kinky or otherwise). The energy all weekend was just spot-on…building slowly Saturday and peaking at the amazing play party Read More…

On Needing Control

I usually say that control is my biggest kink. I’ve amended that lately to say “I’m a reaction junkie”, but the truth is, I really really LIKE (need?) to be in control. Being in control is my happy space, my comfort zone. A friend asked me today why I blocked someone on a couple of Read More…