30 Days of Kink: Days 3, 4, and 5

Day 3: How did you discover you were kinky? Day 4: Any early experiences that, in retrospect, hint at your kinks? Day 5: What was your first kinky sexual experience? If you haven’t had one yet, talk about what you hope to have happen. (I’m combining these three days as they’re all very similar and Read More…

30 Days of Kink: Day 2

List your kinks. Another seemingly straightforward question. According to Wikipedia, In human sexuality, kinkiness is any unconventional sexual practices, concepts or fantasies. The term derives from the idea of a “bend” (cf. a “kink”) in one’s sexual behaviour, to contrast such behaviour with “straight” or “vanilla” sexual mores and proclivities. The term kink has been Read More…

30 Days of Kink: Day 1

So apparently I’m the sort of “blogger” (I apply that term loosely to myself at this point) who requires writing prompts. At least for now.  So I dug around in the dusty corners of the Internet and dusted off the five year old 30 Days of Kink writing prompts. The original was posted by Queer Read More…

Feedback – and I don’t mean that squawk from the microphone

Feedback Noun /ˈfēdˌbak/ “First used in 1920 in the electronics sense. Transferred use, “information about the results of a process” is attested by 1955.” 1. A reaction or response to a particular process or activity.   2. Evaluative information derived from such a reaction or response. (source: feedback. (n.d.). Online Etymology Dictionary. Retrieved September 17, Read More…

On the Power of Acceptance

The concept of acceptance – of self, of others – has been pondered, expounded on, sung about, and written about eloquently by far greater thinkers than myself. The concept of self-acceptance seems to be a nearly universal truth – heck, even I’ve written about that before.  And yet…it seems to be an elusive goal for Read More…

Pushing Limits

We dominant-type folks like to tell our submissives, “pushing soft limits is how you grow”, we’re fond of encouraging others to try new things and step outside their comfort zone. But if continual growth is the goal, those things should hold true for us as well. And sometimes we forget that and get stuck in Read More…

What Service Looks Like

For those of you following along in other places on the Internet, I attended Bound in Boston for the first time last weekend. A truly amazing experience – hands down the best-organized con I’ve ever attended (kinky or otherwise). The energy all weekend was just spot-on…building slowly Saturday and peaking at the amazing play party Read More…

On Needing Control

I usually say that control is my biggest kink. I’ve amended that lately to say “I’m a reaction junkie”, but the truth is, I really really LIKE (need?) to be in control. Being in control is my happy space, my comfort zone. A friend asked me today why I blocked someone on a couple of Read More…