It’s a new year, a time when resolutions are made and fresh starts begun. Until this year, January 1 never felt like the start of a new year – that was always reserved for the start of the new school year – fresh, clean notebooks, brand new sharpened pencils, pristine crayons, and a whole year ahead to learn new things. That continued into my teaching career – a brand new set of names and faces to learn, a blank lesson plan book, clean walls and lockers.
This is the first time in 15 years I didn’t teach. I DID go to school (to complete my PhD) but with three independent study classes and only one classroom based class, it just didn’t have the same feel to it.
Perhaps that’s why this year I celebrated the new year in a more traditional way. For the first time in recent memory, I actually went out on New Year’s Eve. I had champagne at midnight and kissed a cute, new boy as the clock ticked over into 2014.
JT and I had chatted a few times online over a period of weeks. His Fetlife profile read like a textbook example of what I’ve been looking for. But he lives a bit further away than is strictly convenient and he’s 20 years my junior (to be addressed in another post). So I didn’t push it; it was the holidays, I had carpal tunnel surgery – life’s been hectic!
He invited me to a local group’s NYE party and I accepted. We met for coffee first – with the understanding that either of us could walk away with no hard feelings if things felt off. Let’s just say I didn’t get home until 1:45 Jan 1. To say we hit it off would be an understatement.
It’s not like the crazy, heart-palpitations and fireworks of new lust for me. It’s more like the recognition of a kindred soul – like finding the perfect sweater, slipping it on, and having it fit perfectly. There’s still the new-person awkwardness, the tricky balance between getting to know each other as friends – building trust and respect, and tentative forays into D/s flirting and discussion. The communication is easy and thorough, however. And he’s oh-so-responsive to the few tendrils of D/s I’ve sent out.
But for now, it’s like that new notebook with the brand new, sharpened pencils and unsullied crayons. A chance to create something new just the way I want it.
I have other goals for myself for this new year – I want to exercise more and I need to re-focus on my PhD and come up with a viable Dissertation proposal, for example, but the goal of finding a local sub who is all that I’m looking for (see my about page for more about that), is something I’ve been working on for over a year, and something I honestly didn’t expect to happen any time soon. So JT was a pleasant surprise.
Time will tell where this leads, but for now, it’s a wonderful new beginning at the start of a new year.